stay or should I go?
how do I know if it’s
the right time to switch jobs?
by Tim Ryan
says: I’ve been in the same job now for about five
years. I like the company OK, but I’m not sure where I stand;
I don’t think I’m appreciated. After a few months
of searching, I finally received an offer for a new position.
It wasn’t anything special, but it was a little more money
and a good chance to make a change. I went to my boss, expecting
to give him notice and arrange a transition plan. To my surprise,
he strongly encouraged me to stay. He asked if I could hold the
new company off for a couple of days while he put an offer together.
I said I would, but when the new company started pressuring me
for a decision, I got nervous. Although this was basically a no-lose
situation, I was afraid I might screw it up by not handling it
correctly. I can’t believe how much anxiety it caused. How
do we deal with life decisions like this?
expert says: Father Richard Rohr is the founder of the
Center for Action and Contemplation and is a respected spiritual
director. In his book, Everything Belongs, he addresses the spiritual
dilemma that comes from our need to control. He says: “Our
culture teaches us we have to compare, dominate, control and insure.
In brief, we have to be in charge. That need to be in charge moves
us deeper and deeper into a world of anxiety.” So how do
we avoid this anxiety? Father Rohr goes on to say that the first
thing we need to do is to realize that, “Life is not about
me; it’s about God, and God is about love.” So, it’s
not about what I want, it’s about how God asks me to serve.
Ted responds: I kept playing out all the scenarios
in my head trying to sort out the “right” answer.
Finally, I couldn’t take the stress anymore and concluded
that I didn’t know - it’s not up to me! The
one thing I did decide was to let go and let God put the pieces
of the puzzle together for me. It turned out to be an easy decision
to stay when my company came back with a surprisingly good offer.
I realized that maybe this is where God wants me to be, and that
instead of worrying about being in control, I just need to focus
on how I’m called to serve the people around me, and let
God take care of the rest.