“My teenager wants to get a job?”
Should I let her?
by Dr. Cathleen McGreal
A
small café by our home comes to life early on
Friday mornings during football season. The
players’ parents provide money for breakfast and
also work as cooks, dishwashers and servers. As
I delivered platters of food between the kitchen
and the dining room, I realized I was moving
between two worlds. Parents frequently knew
their way around a restaurant because of
part-time jobs earlier in life. Walking back
into the dining room I’d overhear snippets of
conversation about weekend plans structured
around the boys’ jobs. We may ask ourselves, “Is
it a good idea for high school students to
work?”
Encourage an employer that is a “good fit.”
“...what is to be the rule for the boy’s life
and work?” (Judges 13:12) Samson’s father asked
God for input about how he should bring up his
son. Each of us would like to know what rules
would be best for our children. If a fast-food
restaurant closes at 10 p.m., the work day
doesn’t end then - there is cleanup, too. Could
your child finish homework and get enough sleep
to thrive at school with this job? Have him
apply to businesses that fit his schedule and
temperament. For example, my son, Ryan, found a
deli shop in a plaza catering to an early crowd.
How many hours?
Employed teens tend to work long hours - they
put in 30 hours per week at school and many work
an additional 15-20 hours at their jobs. Is this
a good idea? Ask yourself: What would she be
doing if she weren’t working? Playing video
games? Participating in an after-school Model
United Nations Program? Decide whether work is
replacing a valuable extracurricular activity.
Limit hours if homework or a healthy family and
social life begin to suffer.
Teaching them the value of a dollar
or premature affluence?
Jerald Bachman notes that many employed teens
have too much money too soon. Fewer families
rely on adolescents’ income to supplement their
coffers than in earlier generations. Often, a
teen’s money is discretionary income and
adolescents are enthusiastic consumers. It can
be a rude awakening as adults to find that
paychecks have to be used for boring items, such
as utilities and rent! Use your teen’s job as a
chance to encourage money management skills, so
that the CD they want to purchase is a
certificate of deposit and not a compact disc!
If they don’t learn to delay gratification in
high school, they may resent having to do so
later.
Pope John Paul II pointed out that Jesus was “a
man of work, a craftsman like Joseph of
Nazareth” and “... the eloquence of the life of
Christ is unequivocal: He belongs to the
‘working world,’ he has appreciation and respect
for human work.” (Laborem Exercens, the
Encyclical on Human Work, #118)
Email questions and comments to:
mcgreal@msu.edu